To Save Your Relationship or Let It Fall Apart?
Therapy and Counseling Helping Couples Heal and Grow
Based in San Diego and
Available Online throughout California
You feel stuck repeating the same patterns again and again.
It doesn’t matter what the argument is about – one of you says something, the other gets defensive, and things quickly escalate from there.
You interrupt each other and bring up past arguments. “I never said that!” you insist. “Stop lying!” your partner replies.
Debating whose memory is correct leads nowhere, and it feels like you’re on different channels.
You want to stop this pattern, but you don’t know HOW.
No matter how hard you try to explain where you’re coming from, you still don’t feel heard or understood.
One of you gets louder and says cruel things, anything to feel like you can quiet your partner and get your voice back. Then, the other hurls insults back, continuing this competition of cruelty. A part of you never heals from those fights.
You get so caught up invalidating one another and defending yourself that neither of you remembers what started the fight in the first place.
You’ve always hated conflict.
As a child, you hid and shut down whenever your family fought, and now you do the same with your partner.
When things become tense, all you want to do is shut down or run away. You’re so afraid of the intensity, negativity, and messiness of your loved one’s emotions that you try to avoid them at all costs.
So when the person you love stares at you in rage, your mind goes blank. “Just say something! Anything is better than nothing!” your partner yells, but you don’t know how to respond, making them think you don’t care.
Things weren’t always this way.
You remember when you were so in love and connected, but you both feel like different people now.
You’re not sure when things went off the rails and loving each other became so difficult.
And even though you’re still in love, you’re not confident you can give each other what is wanted and needed. Sometimes, you wonder if you’ll ever be “enough” for them.
Your trust has been broken.
Your partner lied and hid other relationships from you. They weren’t there for you when you needed the support most. You were dropped and not prioritized; your trust was broken, and you were broken.
You feel so violated and hurt. The idea that you’re no longer who your partner would turn to for support cuts you to your core.
It doesn’t matter how many times they apologize for betraying your trust or how much you want to forgive them; you just can’t move past it.
Form a new pattern where your needs can be met.
You want so badly for your partner to be less critical and more compassionate. It seems like your partner only dwells on what you’ve done wrong.
“What do I need from you? What do you want from me?” You don’t have any answers.
All you know is that this fighting needs to stop, so you don’t have to keep showing up as the worst versions of yourselves.
Your healing starts now.
Right here, right now, is the time to connect with a seasoned professional and
commit to making this relationship work.
Many people consider couples therapy a “last resort,” and it’s natural to feel
some fear, anxiety, and resistance. But the longer you wait, the more difficult
things become to repair.
I’ve helped so many couples heal, grow, feel more connected, and rebuild their
trust. And I am committed to doing this hard work with you – I know how much you
want this relationship to work.
Hi, I’m Dr. Sophia Chang.
Let’s work together to establish a collaborative therapeutic relationship and develop insights and perspectives to deepen your relationships; adopt healthy habits; and improve your thinking, feeling, and behaving.
Through our sessions, you’ll learn to identify obstacles, challenge repetitive patterns, integrate your feelings and hidden aspects of yourself, and learn ways to better manage fear and shame.
It’s time to connect with the part of yourself that wants to accept responsibility and be different. Face your longing, become honest with yourself and others, and learn to deal with conflicted emotions and complicated situations.
Start taking responsibility for developing personal integrity, healing past wounds, and creating a more satisfying and functional relationship with your partner and yourself.
Find the courage to make changes in your life. Call me now for your free 20-minute consultation.
What I Offer
Give your relationship its best shot at thriving.
Don’t look back in the future and wish you could
have done more to save things.
Get in touch now for your free consultation and
create a pattern that works for you both.
